They Get Messy

Babies are notoriously messy eaters. They figure out right away that throwing, squishing, and spitting food is fun. It takes a while to get good hand/eye coordination going and as they practice there are plenty of misses resulting in food in the eyebrows, hair, ears... you name it. Then there is the lack of solid motor-planning which means cups and utensils often end up on the floor. Picking an object up does not require the same skills as putting it back down, and for some reason learning to place items back on the tray does not seem high on a baby’s priority list.

The first few times your baby ends up an absolute mess, it's kind of cute. You whip out the camera and preserve the memory for all time. Months upon months of glopped hair, soaked and stained shirts, and spills on the floor can become tedious. This same behavior in a restaurant or at a friend’s house could even be embarrassing. What’s a grown-up to do?

The Eating Arsenal


There’s no lack of bib styles out there, and after four kids I think I’ve tried them all. When I want to minimize the mess I go with the plastic full sleeve pocket bib that ties at the neck with a soft cotton collar bib underneath it for comfort as well as absorbing anything the dribbles down the neck. If your baby is not wearing short sleeves, roll up his sleeves before putting the bibs on.

Use simple hair clips to hold back your baby’s hair. You can do this for a boy too provided the macho police aren’t peeking in your windows during mealtime.

Position a spill mat under your baby’s highchair. We are using a Mimi the Sardine mat I picked up for half price on GreenBabyBargains.com. There are other brands that probably work just as well or even better.

Whenever possible (usually at lunchtime) I place a feeding mirror in front of Summer while she eats so that she can see herself eating. The speech therapist said this is supposed to help her visualize what she is doing. Make sure the mirror is out of reach, or that will end up on the floor too!

When I am planning on being right there the whole time, I use a place mat that we made for her that has a bowl/plate spot, utensil places, and a cup spot clearly marked on it. The mat does not adhere to the table so I have to be nearby to save the lunch bowl from ending up on the ceiling. The guides on the mat are to help her understand where to “set down” her eating tools. I only use this mat when I am specifically working with her on the concept of setting down her cup/utensils (instead of the usual Olympic shot-put method she has come to excel at.)

Keep a box of wipes or a damp cloth nearby so that you can wipe up spills as you go along. Keeping stray dribbles and chunks wiped up will keep them off the clothes, hair, and floor.

Consistent Caregiver Responses
After the first messy baby photo shoots, try to refrain from giving attention to messy eating. Don’t laugh or smile when your baby throws things, or blows raspberries with a mouth full of pureed peas. You don’t need to have a negative reaction either, a simple “No thank you, we don’t do that,” is fine.

Lessen Frustration by Teaching
Much of the mess is borne of frustration... baby wants more drink not more peaches and so the peaches go flying to the floor, etc. Teach your baby the signs for more and all done, and food and drink. Those words can make a big difference in how a meal goes. Your baby is going to let you know when she is done with her peas...she will spit the last ones out, or throw her spoon, or even swing her arms and knock the spoon out of your hands. If she knows the sign for all done, there is a good chance she’ll use it instead.

It is important for your baby to learn to wipe her mouth with a napkin or cloth. You want your baby to get used to this, to get in the habit of it. Children with Down syndrome often cannot feel little bits of food on their lips or cheeks/chin, and as they get older this could become a source of embarrassment or teasing. Teach your little one to always wipe her face after taking a couple bites of food.

As mentioned before, setting items down requires different skills than picking items up. Teach your child how to release his grip on his spoon or cup and to place it back on his tray. Many times babies throw their utensils simply because they haven’t the motor-plan for any other method of releasing them. You can teach “set down” by using a hand-over-hand motion with your baby and gently tapping the spoon/cup onto his tray so he can hear and feel as well as see where it goes.

A Little Help from You
Spend a couple minutes doing some mouth prep prior to feeding your baby. Use your z-vibe (or let your baby chew on his vibrating teether) for a minute to wake up his mouth muscles.

When you are doing the feeding, place the spoon in the center of your baby’s mouth with a little pressure so that his tongue forms a “bowl” around the spoon, and then let him close his mouth on the food before you remove the spoon. Don’t scrape the food off the spoon against the inside of his upper mouth as you remove the spoon. If he is self-feeding, you can use hand-over-hand motions to guide the spoon or cup appropriately.

When your baby is drinking from a cup or eating something of thin consistency, you can help him to keep in that last sip by placing your finger under his chin and supporting his mouth closure with some slight pressure. This will encourage him to swallow that last sip rather than let it rush out.

This Too Shall Pass


Learning to eat without a big mess is a process. Try not to get discouraged, and keep at it consistently... your little one will get there! One trick I use before each meal is to decide ahead of time how much mess I am willing to tolerate. From that decision stems my choices of how much to “bib up”, who gets to do the feeding, what she gets to eat, which cup we use, etc. For example if we are going out to eat, I make sure I have clips, a cover-all bib and neck bib, that I do the feeding and wiping, that she eats the least messy food on the menu, etc. If we are home and I am in a tolerant mood at lunchtime, she gets to practice self feeding with her own spoon and cup, and can eat a food that will stick to the utensil... I let her go at it on her own (and I even sneak pictures of her when she isn’t looking!)

Your Turn
Got a messy eater? Or maybe you have a feeding trick we need to know about? Tell us about it! Have you posted on this topic? Comment with the link and I will add it to the related posts.

Related Posts:
Homemade Monday: Feeding Kit


Picture Credits:
Sheridan from Genetically Enhanced
The Quail from The Tao of Tulips
Pudge from The Adventures of Pudge and Zippy

Look What I Found

Every year we find an egg or two days, even weeks after Easter. Thank goodness we use plastic ones now. Well, just like at home, the same thing happened on the blog... I found two more eggs and they belong to a couple of beautiful boys.

Sutter
Wren, Rich and Big Brother Landon announce the arrival of Sutter.




Rowdy
Lance and Erika (and Grandma CiCi) announce the arrival of Rowdy.

A Basketful of Babies

This month’s birth announcements are inspired by recent Easter egg hunting :-) Go visit their blogs to see these cuties and read some wonderful stories.

Camden
Billy and Tonya announce the arrival of Camden.




Claire
Melissa and Darren announce the arrival of Claire.




Macy
Barry and Kathy announce the arrival of Macy.




Mirabel
Emily and John announce the arrival of Mirabel.




Reid
Danielle & Tucker announce the arrival of Reid.



No blog yet, but here is a picture of this gorgeous boy.




If you would like our community to know about the arrival of a child with Down syndrome, please send an email to ds.mama with the baby's info and an email address or blog/website address of the baby's mom or dad.

Pooey Looey

Warning: Ya’ll are going to think ds.mama is a bit nuts after this post. But I swear to you as crazy as it seems, it works. And successfully getting my 18 month old with Down syndrome ready to potty train is worth all your laughter and scorn :-)

Ah... potty training, a daunting task to accomplish with any child... Some people see potty training as an event, something you settle down and do one week. Not me... in our house potty training is a process that begins with elimination awareness and eventually ends two years or so later with saying bye bye to pull ups at bedtime.

During our last IFSP meeting, I mentioned that one of my goals over the next six months was to begin pre-potty training... Six shocked faces stared silently at me. Summer was 16 months old and her team was probably trying to figure out how to break it to me that she was nowhere near ready to start potty training.

Little did they know, I have been “pre-potty training” Summer since she was about six months old. I had learned some interesting things about potty training with my first few kids and I decided as each one came along to add to the “pre-potty training” repertoire all that I was noticing. I also had a friend who bravely did the EC method with her only child, and had relative success with it. I thought to myself, why not take the best of all this and see what happens.

Pre-potty training tricks
The very first step you can take, at any early age you choose, is to help your child connect elimination with a special sound. Notice how your infant child acts when he is poopin. There is likely going to be some grunting, wriggling, and a red face. Take the time to identify to your child what is happening. I sing a goofy made-up song to a warped version of the Sanford and Son theme song.... It goes something like, “A poo poo pooey, a pooey looey, a poo poo poo poo poo poo poo, a pooey looey...” Ahem, you get the idea (and yes, I do refrain in public).

If I have missed the event, I sing it when I am changing her diaper. The only time she hears this goofy song is when she is going or has gone poo. Over time, she has made the connection.

The next step is to help your baby associate going potty with a potty-chair in the bathroom. You can begin this step once your baby can sit on a chair or low bench on her own and can understand cause and effect and sequence. (An example of understanding sequence is that your child knows his routine and expects certain things to happen next. I usually start this step around 16-18 months old.)

Find a sturdy, comfy potty chair to keep in your bathroom. Make the sign for bathroom and then put her on the potty (clothes, diaper, and all) when she shows that she is getting busy. Sing the goofy poop song, and imitate her grunting. Yup, you read that right. Do some face to face grunting and then tell her it is her turn. She will imitate you back and you will be happily surprised at the results.

I do not start off doing this every day or for every elimination. When we have the time, and she seems very alert and is in a good mood, I will take her into the potty and let her practice. Sometimes if I am sure she hasn’t already started going, I will let her sit diaperless and actually go in the potty.

My pre-potty training goal is to teach her body to expect to go on the potty when she needs to poo. I have given her elimination awareness, a sign to use, and practice in the position. Next year, when she is ready to start actual potty training, she’ll already have these basics ingrained.

Your Turn
Ok moms who have been there, done that... do tell. How and when did you start potty training, and what worked best for your child?

From Theory to Practice :-)

Tausha: No Way!!! That did not just happen!!

Oh Kelvin, Guess What?

Your mom (Madi) and dad (Brady) entered the Winter Giveaway and won! So you are getting some goodies in the mail, just as soon as one of your parents emails me to tell me where to send them.

Supplements—DHA & EPA

What is it?
Docosahexaenoic acid (DHA) is an omega-3 essential fatty acid derived from fish oil. Eicosapentaenoic acid (EPA) is another omega-3 fatty acid and it is often found in products that contain DHA.

Why would I want to give it to my child?
DHA is required in high levels by the brain and retina as an essential nutrient to provide for optimal neuronal functioning (learning ability, mental development) and visual acuity.

Studies have been done on children with autism and with other developmental differences, and the results showed that after 3 months of taking DHA & EPA, there was a 6 month improvement in reading and spelling levels, as well as significant behavioral improvements.

When I asked our developmental pediatrician about omega-3 oil, he said that there is proof that it has positive impact on brain development in infants and children. I had already been using it for a while but this was reassuring to hear.

Where can I get it?
Moms can start introducing omega-3 during pregnancy by taking fish oil supplements. Then later your baby can continue to receive DHA & EPA through your breast milk. Some formulas are enhanced with DHA, (but as far as I know, only Baby’s Only by Nature’s One derives the DHA from eggs. More on this topic under side effects.) Omega-3s can also be found in enhanced milk as well as in enhanced eggs (I wonder what those chickies eat).

The easiest way to get it, and one of the safest, is through Nordic Naturals Children's DHA which has the highest omega-3 level of any cod liver oil. Nordic Naturals products have consistently high standards and test under the maximum allowances for toxins and heavy metals.

There is also a plant derived omega-3 fatty acid, a-linolenic acid (ALA), but the metabolic conversion of ALA to DHA/EPA (combined) by metabolism is very limited in humans and certain forms of ALA have risks associated with taking them.

What are the side effects and risks?
One of the positive side affects of taking omega-3 oil is that it helps to keep your baby from becoming constipated. Like some other oils, it helps to keep things moving along.

The Nordic Naturals website lists possible repeating (or spitting up) as a side effect. It says if this happens it could be because, “your body may not be manufacturing enough lipase, the digestive enzyme our bodies make to digest fats and oils. If you haven't ingested fish oils for a long time, it might take a week or so for your body to adjust and make more of this enzyme.”

Aside from that, I have found no other negative feedback associated with the Nordic Naturals omega-3 fatty acids, DHA & EPA.

Mercury and other toxins are a risk associated with some brands of omega-3 oils so do brand research before you purchase an omega-3 supplement.

Several sites mention dangers in the processing of ALA oils, Mortierella alpina oil and Crypthecodinium cohnii oil (sometimes listed as M. alpina oil and C. cohnii oil). These oils are extracted from fermented fungus and algae with a neurotoxic chemical solvent. The C. cohnii oil (algae) & M. alpina oil (fungus) used in many infant formulas are treated with hexane solvent, acid, and bleach. Some infants have experienced serious adverse reactions to these additives. Hmm, I wonder why.

Based on my research I did when choosing a formula and supplements, I found that Baby’s Only formula and Nordic Naturals omega-3 oil were the safest ways to get DHA & EPA into my babies. All of my children are still taking one or both of these products.

Your Turn
Is your child taking some form of DHA supplement? If so, what are you using and what results are you seeing if any?

Sources
DHA/EPA Omega-3 Institute
Omega-3 Fish Oil Blog
Nordic Naturals
The Cornucopia Institute

EI—Who, What, When, and Why

The purpose of Early Intervention (EI) is to teach us how to give our little ones the extra support they may need to develop effective motor planning and skills.



EI starts off with the assignment of an EI service coordinator and an initial evaluation to figure out what therapeutical services will be beneficial for your child. During the evaluation you will be asked what things are important to you and your family concerning your child. Based on this evaluation and your input, a team of therapists is pulled together to help you and your child reach the goals you have set out.

The goals are written up for a six month period in a document called an Individualized Family Service Plan (IFSP). The IFSP is a living document that gets updated every six months (and sometimes sooner depending on any special circumstances) to reflect your families on-going needs and goals.



It is important to know three things about EI therapists... first of all, they work for you and your child, and you get to decide if the relationship is working out. If you are uncomfortable with a therapist for any reason at all, you can ask your EI service coordinator to switch the provider. Second, not all EI therapists have experience working with children with Down syndrome. And third, there are several concentrations within specific therapy fields. For example, some occupational therapists may have a strong background in sensory, while others may have more experience with self-care skills such as feeding and dressing.

When you are determining who will be working with your child, you should make sure the provider has experience with children with Down syndrome, and a level of expertise in the areas that are specific to your goals. In other words, not any old therapist will do.



Almost all infants with Down syndrome can benefit from working with a physical therapist (PT) and a speech and language pathologist (SLP) with a background in newborn feeding and oral motor skill development. Some infants may benefit from spending time with an occupational therapist (OT) who can provide a sensory program that includes deep pressure and brushing. Between 8 to 10 months of age, you probably should start pushing for a special instruction teacher. This educator will use play therapy to begin teaching your baby sign language, concepts such as in/out and up/down, as well as choice-making and other cognitive skills.

When EI is working right, you will find that you have a team of encouraging therapists who are:
—showing you at a detailed level all of the amazing developments your baby is achieving.
—training your child’s neurological pathways in effective motor activity and motor planning.
—teaching you how you can incorporate basic skill development into your baby’s everyday routines.
—teaching you how to provide your child with motor training, and sensory and cognitive experiences and that will help him develop constructive life skills.



EI is not about pushing your baby to the next big milestone, it is not about comparing your child to others, and it is not about making you feel inadequate as a parent. If you are experiencing those things, it may be time to consider some changes to your child’s team.

Your Turn
When did you start EI and what services did you start off with? What have been the pros and cons of EI for your family?

A Bevy of Boy Beauties

Remember William from last month’s birth announcements? Well, his mom Tracy was kind enough to send us a picture of him. Isn’t he adorable?



Andrew
Nykki and Amy have been blessed with a son, Andrew. Check out Nykki’s blog, Past The Apple Orchard to see lots of pictures of little “Roo”.




Curtis
With great joy, Josh and Berit announce the birth of their son, Curtis. BabyBee can be found hanging out and looking darling on the Beary Bee blog.




Jack
Angi and John are delighted to introduce their first child, Jack. He is the star of the show over at Life in Color.




John
Meg and Dan welcome a beautiful new son, John. He joins brother Danny and sisters Maggie and Emily. He's not on the Web yet, but mom sent a picture so that we can oooh and ahhh over him anyway.






Owen
Andy and Ashley are honored to announce the birth of their first child, Owen. You can let Owen completely charm you at My Little Peanut.




If you would like our community to know about the arrival of a child with Down syndrome, please send an email to ds.mama with the baby's info and an email address or blog/website address of the baby's mom or dad.